Before we get to this next weekend, which hopes to be eventful, I want to catch up on the last one.
I crossed a bridge (horrors! horrors!) to go take a spin in the fabulous
77 El Deora over at the
Ivy Room in Albany (just north of Berkeley). While the door guy, who looked like Uncle Jesse’s stoned cousin, argued with me that they weren’t playing that night, the marquee in front of which he stood begged to differ.
Saturday was a home/neighborhood day filled with sleeping late, cleaning, going to the hardware store, grocery etc. and getting my haircut on Haight. I had planned to go down to Union Square and get a new tux but time did not permit. I had made plans to see (finally) Deb and little Roman (although his name among the tribe is Zack) at her place in Sausalito.
Roman at five weeks. Already a charmer.Deb’s niece Grace visited about five years ago, and was pushing ten at the time. We had much fun and she thought I was the coolest person in the world. Which of course I am. This weekend her younger sister Emma was in town. It was very odd to see her younger sister who is much older than the Grace which exists in my mind. Grace had told Deb to tell me ‘hi,’ and had said to Deb “I can’t believe I haven’t seen Wilson since I was ten.” I feel like it was just last summer, but five years to a fifteen-year-old is much more significant.
I recall we took her to Michael
Driver’s birthday party at David Britt’s place in Rockridge (aka the Britannic Gardens). It was a lovely garden affair with about 90% fabulous gay men (well I suppose it was more like 50% fabulous gays, 40% just plain gays, and then 10% straight couples). What could be more fun for a 10 year-old girl? Those big mo’s were basically ten-year-old girls anyway. Driver was wearing a tiara and even got some Hello Kitty gifts.
I’m just sayin’.
The highlight of the annual event is the frozen margarita machine. Which looks just like a slushie to a little girl and its hard for her to understand why she can’t have one. Grace did have a wonderful time, until she got sick with a bad tummy ache. Either she had gotten into the frozen margaritas, or perhaps it was easting her body weight in sugar coated gummy worms that did her in. My bet was on a little of both. It did make the day memorable.
Grace had an intensively fantastic gay week in SF with movies and ice cream and silly events, tale telling about her Auntie Deb, and other witty repartee. I felt somewhat neglectful that her younger sister Emma had not experienced that side of SF, and felt I had to make it up as best as I could. We even discussed that Grace
still talks about her trip. And I am sure I (and other guys here) have ruined her for other men. I imagine her grasping her boyfriend by the shoulders and shaking him, perhaps even throwing in a face slap, and ordering him to "
BE MORE FABULOUS!"
Earlier that day at Just for Kids on Haight Street I had picked up a very cool sheep for Roman/Zach (whom I named Sherman). I also found a boa for Emma. Now buying a boa can be a tricky thing. The big chicken ones are fun by their camp value, and only certain women and drag queens can pull it off. On a 10-year-old it looks like they’re playing dress up. But the smaller, finely feathered boas (ostrich down maybe?) tend to dress an outfit up rather than making it look like playing “dress up.” It can be a practical scarf for warmth, or add a little pizzazz to jeans and a top. A thin beige boa has many more appropriate options for a little girl than a full on Mae West number. And it has the added cachet of being from her “gay friend in San Francisco.” Those worldly fourth graders. I also gave her a back of sugar coated gummy worms so she would not feel left out. (“Here. I got you something to make you sick on the plane.”)
I gave Deb her first boa at her first gay pride parade lo those many years ago and boas have a very special place in her heart. She and Emma sort of bonded over the boa. I love girls. I also know how younger kids love it when you talk to them like they are not kids, or include them in grown-up humor. However, Deb and mine humor is so exceedingly childish that it was rather ironic to consider this adult conversation. For example, upon my entering the house Deb, nursing, announced, “Sorry I can’t get up. I have a boy attached to my boob.” I responded, “That’s okay. You always do.”
Emma, Wilson, and RomanWe proceeded to have dinner, play with the baby (as much play as a five-week-old plays), and watch trashy “Top 100 Teen Idols” on TV. By 9:00 they needed to get ready for bed so I said my good-byes and went hunting for Lance and Barney in the Castro.
I couldn’t get Lance to answer his phone or a text so I went to about five bars before I gave up and headed home. About two blocks from my house Lance texted back and 30 minutes of parking later I joined them at the
Metro.
Lance had taken Barney and Beth and someone else on an excursion down south all day. As Lance had spent most of his day driving, he was only on his first or second drink. Barney, as entertained passenger, had been drinking wine and cocktails all day and was on his second or third sheet to the wind.
Barney and Lance were cozy at the bar with an exceptionally handsome and exceptionally young looking guy with his young buxom gal pal in tow. I knew I would like her after she opened her mouth and all of South Carolina’s vowels fell out. When I am in SF, I have pretty much lost my accent. But put on the phone with mamma or in a bar with other southerners and it struts right out to the front porch.
Law me.Our new friends are James and Laurie. Neither of whom look much over 21. If. It turns out that they met when James was Laurie’s teacher back in high school. She just turned 21, and he’s 30. And they are both much fun. Laurie is a sassy sweet thing spending a semester up in Sonoma and who bonded with Barney over their nicotine addiction. James came out and escaped South Carolina (“Why go to college? You don’t need learnin’ for farmin’!”), became a teacher, and is now in the D.C. area getting a graduate degree in Biology. I only learned that last bit later, which in hindsight made his stories about spending so much time cutting up worms and watching them regenerate seem much less Boo Radley.
Although there was talk of going to the final pageant for
Miss Bay Area Rodeo/Gay Rodeo Queen at
Marlena’s, we stayed all night at the Metro having fun with James and Laurie. As young, poor, student tourists they had been staying in a cheap hotel in not the greatest neighborhood. They only had reservations for the week, and Laurie was leaving the next day (Sunday). James was in town until Monday and need to make arrangements for another night somewhere in the City.
Back in Nashville we’ve opened up our home to all sorts of new friends, and it is times like these that I regret not having a larger apartment. Lance and I had spent enough time with James to know that he was a good guy and pretty much PLU and clearly sane. We made plans to meet for brunch Sunday morning and Lance generously offered up his guest room for James to stay Sunday night. And after careful consideration James accepted. Lance too was flying out Monday for Arizona but had not yet bought his ticket. Barney, meanwhile, was slowly but surely sending his body into toxic shock with tequila and tonics.
The next day, I met Lance, James, and Laurie for brunch at
Luna.

I love this pic. It looks like a stock commercial shot with the generic “Sunday Brunch” chalk sign. I also think it is a good shot of everyone. I also have to post a close up of James, because he is just that pretty:

That, and this will embarrass him as I know he’s reading this blog.
Lunch was hilarious with good food and good company. While my company ordered two mimosas over the course of lunch, I just drank my one “large” mimosa out of the ridiculous fishbowl it was served in. When the check came, that item was listed succinctly just as a “Big One.”
After lunch, Laurie left to meet her friend and drive back to Sonoma, James went to explore the Mission and see the murals, Lance dealt with the house and work and the dog and such and I headed down to Macy’s Men’s to buy a new tuxedo. I am ashamed to say I have outgrown the one I own. However, I have had the old one since like college so it’s not all that unreasonable to have spread out since then. Tuxedo shopping was a long and arduous affair, but made much more palatable by the charm of my shopping assistant Terri and the fact that I just happened on the last day of the annual Men’s sale and I was ultimately able to buy a nice $500+ suit of dinner clothes for around $260, including tax. I was tempted to buy a new silk dinner jacket as well, but thought that the cheap one I already own was sufficient and I should not look for excuses to spend more money. (Now that I have tried on my old dinner jacket, which won’t even accommodate my shoulders or biceps, I regret not getting a new one while it was in a reasonable price range. The summer formal season is upon us you know.) This week I have been bidding on this vintage western one on eBay:

Sunday night, heh heh, Lance and I took James out to
Sundance Saloon. Generally, gay cowboy country western dancing is not what most guys expect when they come to San Francisco. Which is why I think it is such fun to take tourists. It is so off the guidebook track, everyone is genuinely friendly (and friendly without agenda), and everyone has a good time. Lance and I started going together and took the lessons years ago, but he has only been back five or six times in the past several years.
I was worried about James on the way over, as we were playing country music to gear up, and he was having some unpleasant childhood flashbacks (a little SC-
PTSD). But after a long night of drinking and dancing I believe we successfully created some positive associations to country music. And for not having two-stepped before (and for being in sneakers), James danced quite well his first time out.
The turnout at Sundance has been increasing steadily, and almost double that of last year. The popularity is such that they are now trying a Sundance night Thursdays as well. I have no idea if it will be as much fun. The crowd last Sunday was great. A lot of new people, and almost all of my old favorites. Lots and lots of dancing, even if the dance floor is too crowded to do anything particularly expressive.
Matt was there again, but Jackson was not. I thought they were good friends but it seems they just met each other a week or two ago at the lessons. Matt had left me a voice mail earlier on Sunday asking if I would be out at Sundance, and we spent some time together at the bar. I got a very strong "interested" vibe from him and thought about going out with him even though I know first-hand (I suppose literally) the dangers of dating within the Sundance Saloon population—if things don’t go well it may be extremely awkward as you
will see them again, and on a weekly basis.
I called Matt Tuesday evening and left a voice mail asking him out for tonight (Friday)—dinner first then a drop in at
Coco’s birthday party, and maybe even a
77 show later depending on how the evening progressed. He never called back. I am trying to reserve judgment and will update later.